Being Adopted started with an online questionnaire asking the simple question, “If you could choose any 3 words to describe your experience as an adoptee, which ones would you choose?” of self-identified adult adoptees. 251 people responded from 16 different countries generating 371 distinct words. In order to honor their unique experiences, I created colored index cards with their names (as they identified), countries, and three words. The index cards are uploaded to a searchable database. Being Adopted gives voice to our complex experiences as adoptees. The top ten words were: Lonely, Alone, Confusing, Loved, Lost, Misunderstood, Loss, Grief, Angry, and Complicated.
Over November and December of 2019, I used email and social media to crowdsource words that adoptees use to describe their personal experiences.
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